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Detach And Dream

Published on 5/12/2019
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"Detach And Dream”   is the 10th in my Tom's Vivid Views  series of original copyright press releases sent from my happy home in the sunny south of Portugal


If you plan to do well in life or business then you will need to be bold and take risks. There is no other way. After all, without adventure there can be no achievement. But, as well as attacking life with courage and drive, you need to have a defensive strategy to fall back on too; established practices to steer you through the tough times when all is not going your way.

I learned my most effective defense from a very early age. I was quite unaware at the time of what I was doing; it just came to me and evolved naturally. But by my teen years and in later life I was fully aware of the tactic, and consciously developed, fine tuned and employed it. I call it - Detach and Dream.

Like most children (and adults) I didn't care much for punishment. So when I found myself on the receiving end of a (usually well deserved) beating from an angry parent or teacher, I would shut out the discomfort through sheer will power. This involved telling myself that I wasn't feeling any pain and repeating it to myself continuously until I genuinely didn't feel it. I just numbed myself out completely. In fact, I came to feel nothing.

This wasn't entirely satisfactory. After all, what's the fun in not feeling anything? So my young subconscious mind had to come up with a better, altogether more satisfying experience for the youthful me, and so it did. In fact my mark two version of detaching myself from unpleasantness proved to be quite a triumph.

In this version I removed myself from the punishment altogether. I pretended that it was being inflicted, not on me, but on someone else; and that I was somewhere else entirely and enjoying a very nice time. This most often meant that I was playing football, scoring goals and winning matches for my team with brilliant solo efforts. That, or I was with my friends having fun, eating sweets or chasing girls. It didn't matter, just as long as I was not 'there' receiving the beating. Such was the success of my detach-and-dream strategy that it almost made being punished worthwhile. I did say almost.

Later, in my teens, I was able to employ the same strategy during my not infrequent visits to the dentist. My teeth were brittle, anaesthetics non-existent, drills painfully slow and the dentist a surly bully of a guy who clearly enjoyed inflicting the maximum pain possible on his hapless victims. But I was above all that. Unbeknown to him I 'left' his surgery the moment that I arrived. I remained there in body only. The 'real' me, my inner me, wasn't there at at all. I was frolicking on a beach, swimming in the waves, splashing in the sunshine. I was somewhere warm, friendly and fun, anywhere I wanted to be. And anywhere rather than under the spotlight in his demonic chair subjected to the hellish agony which he was inflicting on 'someone else'.

So to adulthood, life and business. There comes inevitably times when things don't go as planned and events can arise which put you in places or situations where you'd rather not be. The deaths of loved ones happens to us all. Who has not sat through a funeral service and not wished that they were elsewhere, perhaps with the deceased friend or relative and enjoying a pleasant time? This is a classic moment for detach and dream.

Or have you been confronted by an angry boss or relative, justifiably berating you for a failure on your part which compelled you to hear through their angry rant? Or have you fallen foul of officialdom in some way and been summoned to appear for a dressing down?

Instances such as these, and many more, can arise in life and place you in a position of discomfort, pain, mental anguish or unpleasantness. Somewhere that you have to be but that you'd rather not. It's in cases like these that you can cope by being there but by not being there; detaching yourself from the reality of the situation. Adopting this mindset puts you, rather than the other party, in control and reduces stress for all. It's a manifestation on your part of mental strength, resilience and being prepared. The latter, preparation, is after all the key to being one jump ahead in all situations. And even when approaching life as the adventure it should be, there is strength in having an imaginative defensive strategy to fall back on. Especially one which can take you to so many fabulous places!

I am Tom Riach. I live and write in the sunny south of Portugal.


For many years I have run my WAKE UP LEISURE AND LEARNING BREAKS (click on) where I talk of successful living and of creating both material and inner wealth. Or send for any of my best-selling Amazon books – MASTERING THE ART OF MAKING MONEY THE SIMPLEST SALES STRATEGY - SELF-IMPROVEMENT SHOULD BE FUN! - WINNING BIG IN LIFE AND BUSINESS - they are packed with my secrets of successful living and with wit and wisdom sure to get you thinking about how you manage your life. Available in Paperback and Kindle. Click the image below.

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DETACH AND DREAM  is an original copyright Tom Riach press release, short and to the point. I hope you enjoyed reading it and found it informative and/or entertaining. To learn more or to get in touch with me please visit me on my website at TOMRIACH.COM

See you there! Regards, Tom.


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It took me some years to establish myself in business but I believe that in life only the most resolute of tryers will prevail and after several years of a bank account in a permanent state of cardiac arrest my perseverance began to pay!

I became a successful Business Consultant, Investment Adviser and award-winning Salesperson and Marketing Professional and I coined the term 'Creative Solutions' to describe my work in devising and implementing innovative approaches to situations in business, commerce and industry (some call it trouble-shooting). From my successes I grew my own group of small companies.

Today I host my 'Wake Up Leisure and Learning Breaks', personal mentoring and business guidance, in the tranquility and calm of the sunny south of Portugal and I am the author of several best-selling books in the self-help, business and successful living genres.

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